Tuesday, September 22, 2015

Why I Practice (and now teach, whoo-hoo!) Yoga

Let me start by saying I started practicing and studying yoga in the early 2000s, and tomorrow is the first day of my teaching a yoga class.
I feel I am on a path of growth as a Dominant Woman, hopefully at some point also as a sub (I'm a switch!), and also as a yoga practitioner. Having recently met a submissive man who is inspiring my Dominance to come out and play in a major way, I am now yearning to sub again as I did many years ago, but rarely finding the Dominant Man to truly inspire this brat to Obey and Serve. And teaching always improves one's practice or mastery of a craft, so my yoga is growing as well. I think there's a connection between all three of these things, so being here with all you kinksters who also practice yoga seems perfect!
I practice yoga because it helps me connect to my body and experience the sacred through the physical.
I was reared fundamentalist christian and then betrayed at a very early age by a close family member with sexual and physical abuse, so these two things put me at odds with my body.
I am now drawn to spiritual practices that honor the body as sacred, and yoga (along with tantra and tao), help me a lot with that.
I am so grateful for what I've learned in BDSM, the community and warmth I've found here among people who are true to themselves and passionate about their authenticity.
Yoga helps me get in my body so I can get more out of life. That's why I practice yoga. :)

When One of My Sides Plays, The Others Want to Play Too

It seems my sexuality is either totally dormant, or, once, sparked and regularly active, wanting to be totally expressive.
 Case in point, I'm bisexual (80% interested in relationships with men, and 20% interested in sexual encounters with women), and I'm a Top/bottom, Dom/sub switch. I'm almost completely split down the middle insofar as D/s switch goes.
 Recently I've begun exploring my Dominant side for the very first time (I trained as a sub and dated Dominant Men most of my 20s), and My obedient pet and I are finding that I'm taking to the Dominant role as a fish to some very lucky water! :)
 Anyway, shortly after we started playing (Me Dom, him sub), I started really strongly wanting to Serve a Dominant Man.
 The feeling is so strong.
 And I recall that when I was with my favorite Dominant Man, soon into our relationship I started craving sex with a woman. I asked his permission, he granted it, and I had a transcendental encounter with a woman I'd had a longtime mutual crush on who was finally single, and who, as it turned, out, had been best friends with the Dominant Man when they were teens! So in this way I feel I had the Dominant Man's blessing twice over!
 When I'm in a loving, sexual relationship with a man, after a couple of months I need to be with a woman - just once physically, or in a romantic relationship with one, if there's no sex. Just to have both a female and a male presence in my romantic life.
 And as a Dom I seem to really need some sub activity in my life, too - meaning, to express it. 
 I wonder how many switches go through this. I'm sure it's pretty common :)
 Hope you're having a good day today, and thanks for reading.

Tuesday, March 17, 2015

Pic Quote: Soulmate Attraction: Go & Do Good for You

One of the best ways to meet people who are good for you and who you are happy being with is by going to places that are good for you and that you are happy being in, and by doing things that are good for you and that you are happy doing.

Cassendre Xavier
Soulmate Attraction for the Rest of Us

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Make yourself a beautiful day!

Cassendre Xavier
(aka Amethyste Rah, aka Amrita Waterfalls)
“renaissance negresse & ARTrepreneur”
(musician/writer/actress/fine artist)
Leeway Transformation Award-Winning founder & executive director of the Black Women’s Arts Festival (Est. 2003) and the Women's Writing & Spoken Word Series (Est. 2002). 
Visit the Cassendre Xavier Music Gallery at CD Baby: http://cdbaby.com/all/cassendre 
Visit Cassendre's iTunes storefront: http://tinyurl.com/CXiTunes
Visit Cassendre's Amazon song singles page: http://amzn.to/1xrklOW
Official website: http://cassendrexavier.com

Wednesday, March 11, 2015

Pic Quote: Dig Life, Be Diggable + CD "Hope" at CD Baby now!

SOULMATE ATTRACTION
The more you get into what you dig, the more people will dig and get into you.

Cassendre Xavier
renaissance negresse

P.S. My new CD "Hope" is now at CD Baby! http://cdbaby.com/all/cassendre in addition to Bandcamp! http://cassendrexavier.bandcamp.com

Monday, March 2, 2015

10 Things You Didn't Know About My Sex Life

*******MATURE CONTENT******ADULT CONTENT*******

Dear Sexy People,

Here are a few factoids about Amrita Waterfalls, the sexy side of Cassendre Xavier, that has until now not been made public. These will, of course, be written about further, in bound and unbound items formerly known as "books":

1) I don't use the words "sex" and "intimacy" the way most people do. I use "sex" to mean any kind of erotic or genital contact or sexplay, "intimacy" to mean emotional intimacy, and "PVI" to refer to penile-vaginal intercourse. I don't even use just the word "intercourse" since it could mean digital-anal, digital-vaginal, or penila-anal intercourse. 

2) I didn't have PVI until I was 33, and then it was 10 years before I did it again.

3) Singing is often a sexual experience for me. Sometimes singing is so much like lovemaking to me I feel very shy doing certain songs in front of certain people.

4) No matter how much I like my partner, I prefer to sleep alone. That doesn't mean I don't like to fall asleep with them and cuddle early in the morning, but in general when it comes to real sleep, I like my bed real empty.

5) I feel I have a mission to do certain things sexually and that doing these things add more love, light, peace, serenity, and wholeness to the world. Not to mention pleasure. One example is sending nurturing energy through my breasts when I'm with a partner. 

7) I strongly believe testicles are among the most neglected things in the world and I'm on a mission to rectify the sitcheeation. No man I've ever been serious with has been neglected in this area. In fact, if you have yourself a set of balls, imagine I'm sending a warm pink glow of love to them right now. And give them a nice squeeze for yourself.

8) I am ambiguous about my sexual orientation. Technically I am what is called "bi-straight", meaning I mostly am involved romantically and sexually with men, but that I am also sexually attracted to wimmin. Strongly believing in the importance of queer/gay/lesbian visibility, especially in communities of color (as I like to say "Wanda Sykes is not enough!"), I come out as Lesbian wherever possible. I have been a longtime subscriber and contributor to Lesbian Connection, even though I also sleep with men. Many of the wimmin who are eulogized there after their passing have loved and had children with men. It doesn't matter who you go to bed with - it does matter that you come out, if you can, to ease the burden on those who aren't yet comfortable with their sexuality, and also help make major changes in worldwide government legislation for civil rights for all. 

9) I sent my first love letter when I was 4 years old. (I learned to read and write at age 3.)

10) I love having my period. I'm just crazy bananas about the whole deal. I even wrote a song about it, with a little help from Willie Nelson: http://tinyurl.com/OntheRagAgain


So. There ya have it.

Have fun, have orgasms. They're good for you. ;-)

With pleasure,

~Amrita Waterfalls
The Sexy Side of Cassendre Xavier


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(c) Copyright 2015 by Cassendre Xavier (writing as Amrita Waterfalls). All rights reserved. 

Sunday, March 1, 2015

Why Masturbation Helps You Choose Better Lovers

Dear Sexy People,

In my new Wisdom Magazine article "Soulmate Attraction for the Rest of Us: Supplying Your Own Needs" (http://wisdom-magazine.com/Article.aspx/3920), I include the importance of self-pleasuring to keep you satisfied and your vision and judgement clear enough to come (pun intended) from a place of abundance rather than lack, and joyful anticipation rather than need.
 The key is to feel "I would love...(to be with someone, etc.)" rather than "I need" or "I wish I could have...". When you are taking care of your own sexual needs, you are in the best, ahem, "position", to choose wisely your best mates. You can take your time and make lists of your ideal mate/s' qualities. You won't get complacent and settle for incompatible or inappropriate partners. When you allow someone else to be your primary source of orgasms or sexual pleasure, you give your power away, including your power to choose and be picky. 
 And when you give your power away, not only do you make yourself less attractive to those who would give you much pleasure and less stress and heartache, but you also attract like energy - settling energy - people who will affirm your belief that this is all that is immediately available to you - someone who can provide a few seconds of pleasure for you, but not more than that and not without giving you an ulcer, or distracting you from being your best.
 Look to the San Diego pod, led in part by Kamala Devi and her poly spouse Michael McClure, who ever year produce the wonderful "Polypalooza", teaching high level relationship, communication, and other self-actualization skills. You can learn more about them and their work at http://kamaladevi.com
 The reason I mentioned them is because I attended Julio Cortes's workshop on how to date non-poly if you're poly, which happened right after my own workshop, in the same room, at the 10th Annual Poly Living Conference - Philadelphia (Feb 20-22), and he gave a major plug to the San Diego pod. He said their relationship sophistication is on "scientific level" and what most piqued my interest was this idea that being very careful about choosing your lovers should be the most important thing in your dating life.
 This intrigued me because we are often so lax about choosing. As long as the persun isn't a serial killer sometimes seems to be enough, especially if you have a busy stressful life and aren't looking for a serious commitment, just regular pleasure and occasional companionship. 
 I really appreciated hearing this and it has completely shifted my perspective on dating, even on a casual basis. I am now taking the time to think about what I really want and I feel a shift in my energy field, because it is now making the space to receive that.
 One of the greatest ways to empower yourself as a lover, regardless of your relationship status, is to be interdependently self-contained. This means having as many of your own most essential needs met while still being humyn and vulnerable and imperfect enough to need others. After all, we are meant to need each other.
 And one of the best ways to be more self-contained is to be your own best primary partner. Ironically, being so complete, in a loving and inclusive way, will also make you most attractive to your ideal mates.
Also, when you are having regular orgasms that you give yourself (or if you choose to self-pleasure and not orgasm - a spiritual form of celibacy that is very spiritually potent - I did this for months in the early 2000s, and it significantly sharpened my psychic senses), you glow as if you are with child or have been high raw vegan for weeks - which of course is also very attractive!
 Take care of your own most essential needs, including sexual, and you'll find your life turning around in miraculous ways, in and out of the bedroom. (And for much more wonderful info on the self-empowering and other benefits of "selfloving", as coined by the "Mother of Masturbation" herself, Betty Dodson, visit her and her collaborator Carlin Ross's website http://dodsonandross.com). L'chaim!

You can view my "Soulmate Attraction" series and my other personal growth article archives at http://wisdom-magazine.com/ArticleArchives.aspx?author=Cassendre+Xavier or (http://tinyurl.com/CXWisdom for short)!

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Make yourself a beautiful day!

Cassendre Xavier
(aka Amethyste Rah, aka Amrita Waterfalls)
“renaissance negresse & ARTrepreneur”
(musician/writer/actress/fine artist)
Leeway Transformation Award-Winning founder & executive director of the Black Women’s Arts Festival (Est. 2003) and the Women's Writing & Spoken Word Series (Est. 2002). 
Visit the Cassendre Xavier Music Gallery at CD Baby: http://cdbaby.com/all/cassendre 
Visit Cassendre's iTunes storefront: http://tinyurl.com/CXiTunes
Visit Cassendre's Amazon song singles page: http://amzn.to/1xrklOW
Official website: http://cassendrexavier.com


Friday, February 27, 2015

With Pleasure - Amrita Waterfalls Museletter March/April 2015

***MATURE CONTENT****PARENTAL ADVISORY****
Disclaimer: I was not able to print and proofread this before sending, so please to forgive all typological and grammatical errors. Thanks!
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With Pleasure - Amrita Waterfalls Museletter

by Cassendre Xavier (writing as Amrita Waterfalls)

March/April 2015

TABLE CONTENTS

A) GREETINGS
1) TIPS FOR ONLINE DATING & CRUISING
2) ON PEGGING
3) SLUT SUPPLEMENTS & HEALTH TIPS
4) NEW! MUSIC & RELATIONSHIP WORKSHOPS 
5) COMING SOON! AFFIRMATIONS FOR SURVIVORS: SEXUALITY
Z) CATALOG & CONTACT

CONTENTS OF TABLE

A) GREETINGS
Dear Sexy People,

Thank you for your patience in hearing from me. 
I am, among other things, a multi-media healing artist who is also reclaiming and celebrating the sexuality in my life and inspiring others to do so as well. I believe there's no room for guilt and shame anywhere, especially not in sexuality - one of our greatest natural gifts. I also believe there are many healing, redeeming and even magickal qualities to sex when it's expressed freely, lovingly, and joyously. Part of my life purpose is to share my journey in various aspects, and this museletter is the sexual one.
The last time I wrote an Amrita Waterfalls blog was January 2014. I appreciate your interest and sticking around until I was ready to share again. Glad to be here. :)

As a multi-media healing artist I am always encouraging folks to "start where you are". Take baby steps. Do what you can, now. Don't wait.
 Well, it's been over a year since I've written anything on this blog. 
I have so much to do. But I always have so much to do. I will write what I can instead of waiting any longer.

Let me talk about pegging.
Do you know why I want to talk about pegging a little bit? Just because many months ago I said I would. I would also like to talk about the supplements that keep one healthy not only while one is dating expansively but also during the winter and flu season.

I also want to talk about fear, because it's a big part of my path, not only in recovering and reclaiming my natural sexuality, but also in talking about it.
 Thank goodness I'm a black woman artist who is not running for office, because there is almost no wrong I can do with a good head on my shoulders that won't not only not harm me but actually help me (case in point the rockin' Ms. Vanessa Williams). 
 Thanks to the following wimmin for modeling ways to be openly highly sexual in healthy ways, and still have children and/or families both of choice and of origin: Nina Hartley, Annie Sprinkle, Kamala Devi, Betty Dodson, Carlin Ross and Barbara Carrellas.

And now, on to the fun!

1) TIPS FOR ONLINE DATING & CRUISING
a) Choose websites not only from what's suggested by friends, but according to your personality and own preferences, habits, and limits. Just because tons of poly and kinky folks are having mucho success meeting their significant others at The Ok Cupids doesn't mean it's for you, especially if the idea of filling out 80 pages of questions raises your ire and heckles.You may do better at The Craigslists, especially if you're a good writer and you know exactly what you want and don't want - you can write the perfect ad and attract highly compatible partners. If you're particularly kinky and wish to choose from a pool of like-mindeds, FetLife may be for you. There are good and bad characteristics in many sites out there, but learn to differentiate not only from the likes of them but also from the generic ones, like one so-called "poly" site a recent hookup of mine was using to no avail. He instead found the Mindful Polyamory Meetup and went to their gathering on 2/25 and already made at least one friend. And, of course, this town being so tiny of poly-kinks, I not only know but like and work closely with the persun he met. I love my community!
b) Create a completely new and different email address than all your others. With a new and different email address, you won't by found online. Anyone can find most anything about you by copying and pasting your email address into a web search engine, or even on The Facebooks and The Twitters. Unless you have very mild ads out there, it wouldst behooveth thyself to create a new and different email address so you can at least begin from a completely private slate.
c) Move very quickly from step to step. I like to trade pics right away and then voice verify right away and meet right away. I've learned that anything that lags means there's a glitch in the connection or the guy's a joker, fraud, or time-waster.
d) Use every resource available to you for inner security. I've learned to not only rely on common sense but also develop my gut instincts, which took some time. Watching detective and true crime TV shows also help, surprisingly enough because I see how much value is given to the gut instinct, hunches, and feelings. I also use divine guidance, and have received messages, which I've learned to heed. For instance, once I got a message from the angels that a particular guy was a "Rapist". The word appeared in front of his face (in my imagination). I asked the angels, "Is he going to really rape me?" And I got, "No." I was horny and met him anyway. Well, sure enough not only was it one of my worst, if not the worst date I've ever had, but it had elements of danger in it and I damn sure felt raped afterwards. But he hadn't laid a finger on me. When you get an inner signal to stay away, do it, even if the damage will not be physical or as "bad" as you were warned it would be. Another time, I got a divine message someone else was a "Deceiver" and it turned out that he had quite a bit of drug addiction in his very recent past. I wasn't told this until after our 3rd date or so but the entire time I was exhausted with his erratic behaviors stemming from over a decade of crack cocaine use and mental illness he chose to reject diagnosis and treatment of. Throw in some serious Christianity-related influences and talkings about our "lust" and his "demons" along with the demons that were in the world... etc. Anyway, we spent more time misunderstaning and arguing with each other than we did sharing pleasure. When you practice receiving such signals and learn to heed them, you can avoid these snafus.
e) Have fun! You already know a lot of the generic safety practices (including knowing self-defense, etc.). And enough years have passed now that online dating and even cruising is a lot safer than it used to be. Not only are folks open about meeting there, but many are even marrying. There's no more a strong taboo nor stigma around meeting people online for sex and companionship. It's just the love and care you bring to it that makes the diff. 

2) ON PEGGING
I'm a little annoyed that this thing has gotten so popular! I mean a show on Comedy Central the other day had two young women exploring it and then an older couple doing it. What's this world coming to when chyks can fuck deuds in the ass willy nilly and it makes no never mind to the general mainstream public?! I preferred The Olden Days when we who induldged were sexual revolutionaries, just this side of queer and sitting on the fence of so-called straight. I liked when guys didn't know about it and I would introduce them to it. I would be their teacher. I would help improve their prostate health with digital massage. Or I'd scare the beejeeziz out of them with the mere mention of male anal penetrative actions.
I'm now 46. When I was in my mid-20s I was first getting a hankerin' to be inside a boy butt. I felt all kinds of guilty about it, of course, because nowhere in my mother's Cosmo magazines had there ever been any mention of boys who like girls who like to play with boys butts.
 Now, don't get me wrong, when I look at a guy, my first thought isn't, "I wanna get in there!" But being very into hand sex of all kinds, mine and others, and enjoying exploring my partners' various orifices, I am very into that. 

Some surprising benefits of pegging (also called "strap-on"), etc: include:

a) Improved mutual health. Using a strap on that I'm wearing is sometimes the only cardiovascular exercise I get all week. It's often the only time I break a sweat. It's good exercise for the pumper.

b) Prostate massage, while also pleasurable, is actually very healthy for the male-type in question.

c) Similar to the way women's breast lumps are often first noticed by their partners (who feel their breasts more than they feel their own), if there's anything going on in there, your butthole-exploring partner will find it. 

Tips for enjoying butt play with boys (if you're a girl / or if you're a boy who likes girls who like to play with boy butts):

*Keep lots of condoms around. They are great because they make toy clean up that much easier.
*Don't be skimpy with the lube. I like to be very liberal with the stuff, although I also don't like to waste, so it's a happy medium. No one likes the ouchies, and anal tissue is much thinner and more fragile than the girl-hole kind.
*Clip your fingernails short and wear gloves. Non-latex is best to ensure you don't run into any allergy issues with a new partner.
*Go super slow and talk during it. I like to announce before I do anything, unless my partner doesn't like that.
*Thank you lucky, lucky stars you've found each other. As common as it might be amoung poly-kinky folk this kind of thing is still not generally known about or practiced among the typical boy-girl sex set (as far as I know. And quite frankly I could be completely off my gourd as I have kinda sorta NEVER been a member of that set!) Be glad you each found a partner to play safe with in this way.

3) SLUT SUPPLEMENTS & HEALTH TIPS
If you are dating or cruising (having sex with multiple partners), here are some things you can do to minimize catching so much as a cold, as I avoided during this entire winter and flu season.
a) Avoid kissing. I know, that's a weird one, but I've never been into kissing much, and even with being bi and poly my entire adult dating life I still have only had 3 primary/serious partners (boyfriend-girlfriend types) who I kissed well with. So I really can do without it. And I'm very lucky because I believe swapping spit is one of the very best ways to get sick, and I avoid it like, ahem, the plague, if you'll excuse the pun!
b) Engage in the lowest risk sex possible. Again, I'm a lucky one in part because my favorite kind and primary sex is very low risk and for the other stuff I've grown accustomed to the always latex-present barriers my generation were trained as being mandatory. You never miss what you never tried, and for the very longest time, I hadn't. I've gone bareback literally one time with a partner, and that was about 3 years ago (at age 43-ish) and it may likely be years before that happens again. IF it ever happens again! - Tip: Vasectemies ROCK!)
c) Consume ridiculous amounts of garlic. You can learn tricks for minimizing odor, such as mincing (NOT chewing) it and swallowing it with teaspoons of peanut butter, as I saw a lovely older black woman demonstrating on The YouTubes. Other tips: Drink lots of lemon juice and apple cider vinegar in your water. These are natural deodorizers.Use a straw to protect your tooth enamel from the acids of both. Daily floss, scrape your tongue (a spoon will do if you don't have a proper tongue scraper), rinse and gargle with a 50/50 dilution of hydrogen peroxide and water. I eat and chew at least 3 large cloves of garlic with each savory meal I have at home, like jalepenos, and with all I do to minimize the odor, I've gotten good reviews on my up close breath. I also chew whole cloves as a healthy and natural breath freshener. At my CD release concert recently, at least 3 people commented favorably on my clove breath - one even asked me if I was wearing "fenugreek" as a fragrance!
d) Eat lots of fresh, raw greens. Greens have a ton of vitamins, minerals, and other benefits including cholorophyll, which is a natural deodorizer, too. 
e) Eat lots of fat-free plain yogurt. If you don't want the dairy, find non-dairy live active culture foods. The live active cultures improve your immune system along with the added benefit of regulating your digestive cycle as well.
f) Wash frequently but NOT with anti-bacterial soaps and detergents! Remember your body has plenty of disease fighting GOOD bacteria, and when you wash with triclosan (commonly found in products like Dial soap) you are killing your bodies natural resources to keep you healthy. I carry my own soap to wash my hands, or for last minute sleepovers, my body, just in case I'm at the home of someone who stocks "Kills Everything Dead" products in the shower stall and sink. All you need to stay clean enough and wash away bacteria very regularly. I'm a big fan of frequent handwashing, but I'm not obsessive with it, and I keep my fingers away from my mouth and eyes, unless I know I've just washed them.
g) Eat what you're attracted to. If you're attracted to raw natural coconut that's very good, too, because that has lots of natural antimicrobials, and your body must need that. 
h) Take Vitamin C supplements. I take about 1,500 mgs daily, and don't worry about it, it's water soluble.
i) Eat plenty of fresh fruit and vegetables. These are much more effective than any supplements because your body understands and assimilates them the best and most quickly.
j) Reduce stress. Reduce stress. Reduce stress. (Meditate, masturbate, exercise, sleep, whatever. Just reduce stress.)

4) NEW! MUSIC & RELATIONSHIP WORKSHOPS 
a) Music: My new CD "Hope" was released on February 13, 2015 to great reviews, including this lovely article from Philadelphia Weekly editor-in-chief Stephen H. Segal: http://www.philadelphiaweekly.com/music/live-music/Cassendre_Xavier__Hope-291414101.html [Some of the article: “A gorgeously minimalist showcase for Xavier’s throaty Tracy-Chapman-via-Dar-Williams sincerity,Hope assembles catchy, original acoustic ballads, like the sweetly spiritual “Forever Home” and the plaintive title track, “Hope (Find Me This Way)” alongside a surprisingly eclectic roster of well-conceived covers. None of us may have been looking for the raw emotional truth hidden inside J.Lo’s pre-fab plastic single “If You Had My Love,” but somehow Xavier finds it and redeems it; likewise, her mellow retrofit of Green Day’s “When I Come Around” into folksinger idiom is oddly comfortable. The high point is her transcendent rendition of Dylan’s “Boots of Spanish Leather”—a song about the slow fadeout of an expired romance, but Xavier’s take is upbeat and life-affirming, reminding us that goodbyes need not be tragic when they can honor and celebrate the beauty that’s come before while looking with hope and faith toward the horizon.
There are 14 tracks of original and cover songs featuring myself on vocals and guitar, and my Grammy-nominated producer and musician brother Giz Matic Xavier's co-production.
By March 5 the CD will be available for purchase in disc or download format at my CD Baby storefront: http://cdbaby.com/all/cassendre.

If you'd like to order the disc now, you can send a check or money order (preferred) for $15 postpaid per "Hope" CD in the domestic USA, payable to:

Cassendre Xavier
4530 Baltimore Ave.
Philadelphia, PA 19143-3705

Your first and last name____________________________________________

Your email address_________________________________

Your phone number________________________________

The first and last name of the person the CD will be mailed to:__________________________________

Shipping street address_________________________________________

City, State, and Zip Code_______________________________________________

Please allow up to 2 weeks for delivery.  Contact: cxmusic(at)gmail(dot)com or reply to this message. Thank you!

b) Relationship workshops: I presented my workshop Soulmate Attraction for the Rest of Us: Dating & Relationships for the Poly, Recovering, Survivor & Tantric at the 10th Annual Poly Living Conference in Philadelphia this past weekend (Feb 20-22) and the same workshop at Sisterspace Weekend in Darlington, Maryland (September 5-7, 2014). I have been writing the "Soulmate Attraction for the Rest of Us" series at Wisdom Magazine's online edition since 2011, and am working the forthcoming book Soulmate Attraction for the Rest of Us: Dating & Relationships for the Poly, Recovering, Survivor & Tantric. My next SARU article will be posted at Wisdom Magazine on March 1 (under "This Month's Article's") and is called "Soulmate Attraction for the Rest of Us: Supplying Your Own Needs". You can see all my Wisdom Magazine articles at http://tinyurl.com/CXWisdom

My SARU writer/presenter bio: 
Cassendre Xavier has been writing the "Soulmate Attraction for the Rest of Us" series at Wisdom Magazine's online edition since 2011. She is the author of the forthcoming book Soulmate Attraction for the Rest of Us: Dating & Relationships for the Poly, Recovering, Survivor & Tantric, and has presented her workshop of the same title at Sisterspace Weekend in Darlington, Maryland (September 5-7, 2014) and the 10th Annual Poly Living Conference in Philadelphia 2015 (February 20-22). Cassendre has been living with bipolar depression her whole life, been a member of Philadelphia's LGBT, polyamorous, and New Age communities since 1991, and from 1996-1999 facilitated Sisters Healing Together, a peer support group for women survivors of incest with a special focus on compulsive overeating, which she also founded, at the William Way LGBT Community Center in Philadelphia. Cassendre is the creator of the popular Affirmations for Survivors guided meditation audio series (“Self-Love” and “Spirituality” were released in 2007; “Sexuality” and “Life Skills” are forthcoming in Spring 2015). For more information, please visit http://cassEndrExavier.com.

5) COMING SOON! AFFIRMATIONS FOR SURVIVORS: SEXUALITY
As stated in my SARU bio above:
Cassendre is the creator of the popular Affirmations for Survivors guided meditation audio series (“Self-Love” and “Spirituality” were released in 2007; “Sexuality” and “Life Skills” are forthcoming in Spring 2015). For more information, please visit http://cassEndrExavier.com.

The Affirmation for Survivors guided meditation CDs are only available directly from me:

If you'd like to order the disc now, you can send a check or money order (preferred) for $20 postpaid per CD ("SelfLove", and "Spirituality" respectively) in the domestic USA, payable to:

Cassendre Xavier
4530 Baltimore Ave.
Philadelphia, PA 19143-3705

Your first and last name____________________________________________

Your email address_________________________________

Your phone number________________________________

The first and last name of the person the CD will be mailed to:__________________________________

Shipping street address_________________________________________

City, State, and Zip Code_______________________________________________

Please allow up to 2 weeks for delivery. Contact: cxmusic(at)gmail(dot)com or reply to this message. Thank you!


Z) CATALOG & CONTACT

a) The Cassendre Xavier Music Gallery: http://cdbaby.com/all/cassendre
b) Ebooks and print books: http://cxbooks.eventbrite.com
c) Guided meditations (see above listing for Affirmations for Survivors series), and see the free audios at http://tinyurl.com/CXMeditations 
d) iTunes storefront: http://tinyurl.com/CXiTunes
e) Amazon song singles page: http://amzn.to/1xrklOW

CONTACT:
Music Booking/Orders/Inquiries: cxmusic(at)gmail(dot)com or reply to this message. 
Workshops/Literary Inquiries:cxwriting(at)gmail(dot)com or reply to this message. 
Thank you!


[Images: "How to Wear a Crystal" series, from the forthcoming book of the same title, by CX. "She Got Legs" by Sarah Stefana Smith, taken at the Black Women's Arts Festival 2009 and used on the back of my 2009 musical CD "Capable of Love".]

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Cassendre Xavier
(aka Amethyste Rah, aka Amrita Waterfalls)
“renaissance negresse & ARTrepreneur”
(musician/writer/actress/fine artist)
Leeway Transformation Award-Winning founder & executive director of the Black Women’s Arts Festival (Est. 2003) and the Women's Writing & Spoken Word Series (Est. 2002). 
Official website: http://cassendrexavier.com


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