Friday, June 30, 2017

With Pleasure: Channeling Casual Sex Energy

Recently I decided to remove my disdain for casual sex as it may have been blocking my attraction to and/or the arrival of a highly compatible primary partner (soulmate/twin flame type), by instead using the energy of partnersex pleasure and orgasms towards a positive intention or goal. I had been doing this with my solosex orgasms already, but hadn't considered doing it with a sex partner that I didn't have a romantic relationship with.
 The difference is that I am not doing it WITH them. I am still channeling my own sexual energy - it's just my energy through sex with another persun.
  I have done this with casual sex partners before, meaning I had a meditative and spiritual experience while they were giving me pleasure, but at the time I hadn't yet gotten tired of the dynamic of unavailable men being attracted to me for pleasure.
 A few days ago I began preparing for a date that begins in less than two hours. Or pleasure session as it were. Non-romantic, casual partner of almost a year  I believe, or over a year. One of my favorites! 
 I began drinking a lot of water, which was really good for me because I had been dehydrated for weeks, due to traveling a lot for daily errands, and not wanting to be inconvenienced by my frequent trips to public restrooms, especially the really grody ones on public transportation, which I take because I do not drive.
 So, one of the good things about my pleasure sessions is that I am well hydrated for several days before, and one day after.
 Another thing that happened is that this morning I took my guitar out and played it and sang for the first time in many months. I had already made progress by bringing it to my temporary residence from my office where it usually lives. I spent the last three days or so looking at but not picking it up. 
 My housing and creativity issues are major things I am working on right now and I am thrilled to see how things are developing. 
 Using my sexual energy towards positive intention and goals is very effective and I look forward to seeing how incorporating or enrolling my harem of willing and able pleasure providers will assist and support my endeavors. 

Have you ever used tantra, taoist sexual practices, or sexual magick for the attainment of personal or professional goals, or to set intentions, or to bless others? Do tell!

With Pleasure,

Amrita Waterfalls (aka Endowed Goddess)

Make yourself a beautiful day!

Cassendre Xavier

"renaissance negresse"

$15,000 Leeway Transformation Award-Winning musician, writer, and community cultural arts organizer.

Founder & Executive Director of the Black Women's Arts Festival (Est. 2003) and the Women's Writing & Spoken Word Series (Est. 2002).

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Thursday, June 29, 2017

Shrimp Savannah poem (YouTube)

Please enjoy my poem "Shrimp Savannah: A Recipe (For Seducing a New Lover)" from my chapbook "secrets & lies: poetry and other words" available from CX Direct and Bindlestiff Books, in West Philly! (It has also been featured at the Erotic Literary Salon event and blog!)

Has your kinky title ever held you back?

Sometimes it's hard to find exactly the right power dynamic name or kinky role to put in your profile...
 I have had the dickens of a time trying to find what to call myself... Domme seems to bring up images of patent leather thigh high stiletto boots and shoulder length straight wigs. And topping. Being on top, being aggressive, being 
​mean, being serious, being in charge, being financially superior, etc.
 But I'm none of those things. Is there such a thing as a "Dominant bottom"? I'm sure there is, or we can say that we are it. We can say we are whatever we want!
 For now I've changed "Domme" to "Evolving", because even though I am naturally dominant and bossy in most ways in and out of the bedroom, I am not a top, and I am not aggressive. I just want to be served and serviced and pampered and exactly how I want it, and I do not want anything else than that. And I am very vocal about it. But I am also a nurturer and very caring and a babygirl who loves her daddy and naturally attracts the daddy type.
 I am also bossy but I am totally weak for a naturally masculine dominant man. Who just happens to be submissive to me. And I in turn am submissive to him in various ways. It's all a big wacky confusing game and it's so much fun!
 What are the ways your title has served or tripped you up?

Tuesday, June 27, 2017

Channeling Your Sexual Energy (New Inspiration Line Message!)

​New message on my Free, 24-hour Inspiration Line (215-552-8850)!
"Channeling Your Sexual Energy", about the importance of masturbation, and the power of the orgasm and sexual pleasure.
Featuring shout-outs to former U.S. Surgeon General Dr. Joycelyn Elders, "Mother of Masturbation" Betty Dodson (whose Facebook page and group I created myself long before she and business partner Carlin Ross got on Facebook!), ​and "Urban Tantra" author/coach/trainer Barbara Carrellas!

With Pleasure,

Cassendre Xavier
aka Amrita Waterfalls and Endowed Goddess